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The
righteous should choose his friends carefully.( Pro.12:28a)
(1)
When beginning a new relationship never ignore warning
signals... such as disrespect for you or for your family,
rudeness toward others or gossip-- if they will gossip to
you they will gossip about you. "gossip means malicious
intent"
(2)
You should never have to change who you are in order to be
liked. On the other hand we should always improve upon
ourselves for the sake of the kingdom and to improve our
lifestyle.
(3)
We should be able to disagree on issues and ideas without
damaging the relationship.
(4)
Real Relationships should never be forced (through control
or manipulation) they should be built through love and
mutual respect through the test of time and difficulty.
(5)
Beware when it is all one-sided when the conversation's are
always about them. When they make a conscious attempt to
convince you of their success or that they have changed, but
have no real interest in you or your wishes.
(6)
They should be covenental and not political. The difference
is political relationships are simply self serving; in
other words if you support me, walk right, talk right, and
don't embarrass me then we are in relationship. There
is none or very little room for failure. Covenant
relationships are for life regardless of the cost.
(7)
God will bring people into our lives who help equip and
balance us, and there are also those who are mentors and
fathers; a mentor must be pursued, but a true father may
pursue us yet they remain sacrificial; they may
be corrective to our undisciplined areas and often times
they will go un-noticed while their children prosper however
that is joy to a real father. They spend and are willing to
be spent for the sake of their children..
Scott
Stimson Sr.
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