All of us have had relationships that have gone bad, but the important thing is to find  God in all of them even in the difficult ones, and then be healed and move on.
 
(1) Learn to respond rather then react--A response is to who they are as a person with feelings, family, and friends in mind.  Reaction is when we are solely focused on what they may have done or we think they are doing.
 
(2) Use the conflicts to create overdue changes in us, it may be that The Father is removing old attitudes, and selfish motives from our own lives, using someone else to help bring that about.
 
(3) Forgive---This does not mean to pretend they have done no wrong. The word means to turn loose or send away the offence not necessarily to trust them again, but it does mean to let them go meaning you counted the cost, you acknowledge the wrong, and you choose to release them through the grace given unto you through Christ.
 
(4) Recognize The Holy Spirit will allow some people in our lives only for a season, they were never meant to be a permanent part forever;   Pastors really need to understand this,  we can bless those who leave our church and ministry without resentment or thinking they missed God.( Make it easy for people to leave if they desire to).
 
(5) The things we dislike in others may be a picture of our own soul that we haven't yet come to terms with.
 
(6) Negative relationships can become positive ones when we grow, adjust, and make changes in how we treat others.
 
(7) Avoid the blame game,,,,, This is a sign of immaturity  Rise above accusations and a critical spirit this never helps anyone.
 
(8) Understand the freedom of being delivered from people, so that you may be sent to people in purity and love.
 
 
Scott Stimson Sr.